25dec2009 has truly shown me what christmas is and is all about. it's about being with the person you love, sharing the warmth and joy, and giving yourself freely for that special one:)
i have personally never experienced a christmas like this one and i hope i'd be having christmases like this for many many years to come! in fact, i'm sure i would!:)
best.christmas.ever!(so far!) XD
Monday, December 28, 2009
Monday, December 21, 2009
i love askmen.com haha
Don't overreact
It's ok to feel jealous, as long as you can contain and channel it in a positive manner. Keep in mind that having other guys flirt with your girlfriend is normal -- just consider it as flattery on both your parts. As long as she looks but doesn't touch, what's the big deal?
Deal with reality
Focus on what is really happening, not what you perceive to be happening because with time, you may end up having difficulty distinguishing fact from fiction, and you don't want to kill an otherwise perfect relationship over things that never really happened. Don't let your imagination dictate the kind of person she really is.
Respect yourself
Realize that she chose you for a reason and there is no need for her to be so easily tempted elsewhere. Remind yourself that you're every bit as deserving as those guys you feel threatened by.
Next in overcoming jealousy comes your evaluation of the relationship. If you've made it this far, there has to be a reason for it. Focus on these positive points before moving on to any negative ones. Chances are that the good points outweigh the bad ones, otherwise one of you would have thrown in the towel by now. By comparing the real relationship to your internal feelings of jealousy, you should gain balance and realize competitors will have a hard time taking her away from you.
Inflate your ego
Because this feeling is internal, the biggest step in overcoming jealousy is to work on yourself. Feeling jealous about her relationship with another guy has much more to do with you than it does with him. To overcome this, you have to boost your self-esteem.
Take time to remind yourself how great you are. The very fact that she's with you means you have beaten all the other men in the world. Any rivals can't just waltz in and take her away because you're already miles ahead of the game. Channel time and effort into the relationship to make her happy, and when she tells you “You're the best,” it'll do wonders for your ego.
Overcoming jealousy involves not just concentrating on the relationship, but also increasing your self-opinion in all other areas. Take pride in the things you're good at, take more time with the hobbies and interests you enjoy and excel at, and surround yourself with people who think you're just swell. Get a haircut, buy a sharp new suit... do whatever you can to remind yourself that you're the bomb, and you won't worry about all the other guys in the world.
Trace all future episodes of jealousy
Keep track of all your future feelings of jealousy. If you find yourself suspicious or angry about another guy, sit down and analyze it. Get a clear idea as to why you feel threatened, listing all the reasons on your side and his. Then try to rationalize why these feelings are justified. Attempt to imagine the world in which all the crazy thoughts are true, and you'll find that all the pieces just won't add up. Eventually, you'll come to dismiss your jealous thoughts as quickly as they crop up.
It's ok to feel jealous, as long as you can contain and channel it in a positive manner. Keep in mind that having other guys flirt with your girlfriend is normal -- just consider it as flattery on both your parts. As long as she looks but doesn't touch, what's the big deal?
Deal with reality
Focus on what is really happening, not what you perceive to be happening because with time, you may end up having difficulty distinguishing fact from fiction, and you don't want to kill an otherwise perfect relationship over things that never really happened. Don't let your imagination dictate the kind of person she really is.
Respect yourself
Realize that she chose you for a reason and there is no need for her to be so easily tempted elsewhere. Remind yourself that you're every bit as deserving as those guys you feel threatened by.
Next in overcoming jealousy comes your evaluation of the relationship. If you've made it this far, there has to be a reason for it. Focus on these positive points before moving on to any negative ones. Chances are that the good points outweigh the bad ones, otherwise one of you would have thrown in the towel by now. By comparing the real relationship to your internal feelings of jealousy, you should gain balance and realize competitors will have a hard time taking her away from you.
Inflate your ego
Because this feeling is internal, the biggest step in overcoming jealousy is to work on yourself. Feeling jealous about her relationship with another guy has much more to do with you than it does with him. To overcome this, you have to boost your self-esteem.
Take time to remind yourself how great you are. The very fact that she's with you means you have beaten all the other men in the world. Any rivals can't just waltz in and take her away because you're already miles ahead of the game. Channel time and effort into the relationship to make her happy, and when she tells you “You're the best,” it'll do wonders for your ego.
Overcoming jealousy involves not just concentrating on the relationship, but also increasing your self-opinion in all other areas. Take pride in the things you're good at, take more time with the hobbies and interests you enjoy and excel at, and surround yourself with people who think you're just swell. Get a haircut, buy a sharp new suit... do whatever you can to remind yourself that you're the bomb, and you won't worry about all the other guys in the world.
Trace all future episodes of jealousy
Keep track of all your future feelings of jealousy. If you find yourself suspicious or angry about another guy, sit down and analyze it. Get a clear idea as to why you feel threatened, listing all the reasons on your side and his. Then try to rationalize why these feelings are justified. Attempt to imagine the world in which all the crazy thoughts are true, and you'll find that all the pieces just won't add up. Eventually, you'll come to dismiss your jealous thoughts as quickly as they crop up.
everything is right where it's supposed to be
this year has been really really really good to me <3
Love is real, real is love,
Love is feeling, feeling love,
Love is wanting to be loved.
Love is touch, touch is love,
Love is reaching, reaching love,
Love is asking to be loved.
Love is you,
You and me,
Love is knowing,
We can be.
Love is free, free is love,
Love is living, living love,
Love is needing to be loved.
Love is real, real is love,
Love is feeling, feeling love,
Love is wanting to be loved.
Love is touch, touch is love,
Love is reaching, reaching love,
Love is asking to be loved.
Love is you,
You and me,
Love is knowing,
We can be.
Love is free, free is love,
Love is living, living love,
Love is needing to be loved.
wake me
I was dreaming of the past,
And my heart was beating fast,
I began to lose control,
I began to lose control,
I didn't mean to hurt you,
I'm sorry that I made you cry,
I didn't want to hurt you,
I'm just a jealous guy,
I was feeling insecure,
You might not love me any more,
I was shivering inside,
I was shivering inside,
I was trying to catch your eyes,
Thought that you were trying to hide,
I was swallowing my pain,
I was swallowing my pain.
And my heart was beating fast,
I began to lose control,
I began to lose control,
I didn't mean to hurt you,
I'm sorry that I made you cry,
I didn't want to hurt you,
I'm just a jealous guy,
I was feeling insecure,
You might not love me any more,
I was shivering inside,
I was shivering inside,
I was trying to catch your eyes,
Thought that you were trying to hide,
I was swallowing my pain,
I was swallowing my pain.
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
irony?
haha on my way to school today i realized that there's an ITE directly opposite NUS and like the students from both schools share the same busstop. was it the government's plan to motivate both sides? do well and you jump to one side, do badly you jump over to the other side. haha
(edited 16oct09)
after a detailed discussion with kj on this very important topic, we've come to conclude that what the government is trying to say is YOU SEE! YOU SCREWED YOURSELF OVER AND NOW YOU'RE NEVER GOING TO NUS yeah.it's like..rubbing it in their face man haha
and today i went by that busstop again and like i realized on the ITE side, there isn't really a busstop..that means they have to ALWAYS walk over to the NUS side and sit and mingle amoung the NUS students and listen to stuff they'd probably never understand.yup.
(edited 22oct09)
studying isnt everything right? sometimes we gotta do some sports and stuff to keep our bodies fit and well. some people get fit and well better than others but oh well..
anyway! two days ago i went for cross country training at the NUS track and guess what i saw! ITE students training there too!! how awesome it is that NUS extended their warm hospitality to our friendly neighbours across the AYE! it's like saying.."come over guys! come train over here! look you're IN NUS but not exactly IN IN NUS! come mix with some of these guys so that you can bruise your ego and realize what a crap load of shit you have done with your lives! see what you could have been if you hadn't screwed yourself over!"
and i realized, SP and NP are also relatively near to NUS. haha. suck it up losers.
(edited 16oct09)
after a detailed discussion with kj on this very important topic, we've come to conclude that what the government is trying to say is YOU SEE! YOU SCREWED YOURSELF OVER AND NOW YOU'RE NEVER GOING TO NUS yeah.it's like..rubbing it in their face man haha
and today i went by that busstop again and like i realized on the ITE side, there isn't really a busstop..that means they have to ALWAYS walk over to the NUS side and sit and mingle amoung the NUS students and listen to stuff they'd probably never understand.yup.
(edited 22oct09)
studying isnt everything right? sometimes we gotta do some sports and stuff to keep our bodies fit and well. some people get fit and well better than others but oh well..
anyway! two days ago i went for cross country training at the NUS track and guess what i saw! ITE students training there too!! how awesome it is that NUS extended their warm hospitality to our friendly neighbours across the AYE! it's like saying.."come over guys! come train over here! look you're IN NUS but not exactly IN IN NUS! come mix with some of these guys so that you can bruise your ego and realize what a crap load of shit you have done with your lives! see what you could have been if you hadn't screwed yourself over!"
and i realized, SP and NP are also relatively near to NUS. haha. suck it up losers.
Monday, September 21, 2009
how to disappear completely
for a lack of someone to talk to:
this is the worst day of my life,
for this day i made you cry.
this is the worst day of my life,
for this day i made you cry.
Friday, April 10, 2009
because, because.
to my bestest best friend of all time (you know who you are) -
They were sitting
They were sitting on the Strawberry Swing
Every moment was so precious
They were sitting
They were talking under Strawberry Swing
Everybody was for fighting
Wouldn't wanna waste a thing
Cold, cold water bring me 'round
Now my feet won't touch the ground
Cold, cold water what ya say?
When it's such…
It's such a perfect day
It's such a perfect day
I remember
We were walking up to Strawberry Swing
I can't wait until the morning
Wouldn't wanna change a thing
People moving all the time
Inside a perfectly straight line
Don't you wanna just curve away?
When it's such…
It's such a perfect day
It's such a perfect day
Now the sky could be blue
I don't mind
Without you it's a waste of time
Could be blue
I don’t mind
Without you it’s a waste of time
Could be blue,
Could be gray
Without you I’m just miles away
Could be blue
I don’t mind
Without you it’s a waste of time
They were sitting
They were sitting on the Strawberry Swing
Every moment was so precious
They were sitting
They were talking under Strawberry Swing
Everybody was for fighting
Wouldn't wanna waste a thing
Cold, cold water bring me 'round
Now my feet won't touch the ground
Cold, cold water what ya say?
When it's such…
It's such a perfect day
It's such a perfect day
I remember
We were walking up to Strawberry Swing
I can't wait until the morning
Wouldn't wanna change a thing
People moving all the time
Inside a perfectly straight line
Don't you wanna just curve away?
When it's such…
It's such a perfect day
It's such a perfect day
Now the sky could be blue
I don't mind
Without you it's a waste of time
Could be blue
I don’t mind
Without you it’s a waste of time
Could be blue,
Could be gray
Without you I’m just miles away
Could be blue
I don’t mind
Without you it’s a waste of time
Friday, January 2, 2009
next page please
and so it is 2009.(quite anti climax only post on the day after the first day of the year.FAIL! haha)
well it's been a long time since i've written in here. and by write i mean like proper proper writing and not like posting pictures and songs up and like stupid point form entries haha.
2008 was quite a special year for me..a year of many firsts..a year of many lasts(hopefully) and a year of new beginnings and a year of unfortunate/fortunate endings. i daresay 2008 has had a major impact on me. i think differently and sort my thoughts out in a different manner. i'm not sure it this is what they mean by maturing but i like this change because i feel that this change will make me a better person.
looking back on 2008, i feel that i have accomplished alot of things i never actually set out to achieve ( i don't believe in new year resolutions see). i have completed the national service chapter of my life, and hopefully it ends there in ocs - i got my reservist unit but i don't really have an appointment see:) the next part of my life will naturally be my tertiary studies. still not so sure of what i should do but we'll leave that to another time. in the mean time i should be working at ocbc up till just before i enroll. (i just came back from the interview and i think it went well) as such, my short term goals from now till i start uni, is to -
1. not get fired
2. go for my holiday in australia
3. train consistently
4. compete in more races
5. learn to drive
and i guess for the rest of 2009 i will be in uni and i bet that time period from aug to dec will pass super fast so i won't really have much goals to set for myself. i don't know what to expect and i shall not anyway. but i do know i wanna start playing squash in uni again. it is such an awesome game. period.
on a side note, i'll be going for stars concert with ethel and her classmates next wed! yay how exciting haha although i don't exactly know anyone else but oh wells we got like some balcony seats where like the whole booth is gonna belong to us so yea it'll be pretty awesome.
anyway, i was looking through and sorting my drawers a few weeks back and i found so many things i kinda forgot was there like a PARANG! haha seriously. and like i had this few black notebooks where i penned down my thoughts when i had just enlisted and was bored in tekong. it was quite interesting to see what i was thinking about while i was there. there was this particular entry i remember writing while waiting for my turn to go fire the rifle at the range. i was going on about what would happen if everyone single person in china were to make a jump at the exact same time. all one point don't know how many billion of them were to jump at the same time - will the earth be shifted slightly out of its axis? and if that were to happen, will we just spiral out of the sun's gravity and like float off into the universe and ultimately die cos the earth will freeze over? (okay if my physics like theories are flawed in any way pls pardon me.i was in army.haha)
and then i found out that i had quite alot of letters in my drawers and i had just put them into different piles. i spent christmas eve sorting those letters out and reading them again and putting them all in order in a nice corner of my drawer. it was nice to re-read those letters with such warm and comforting (and also funny) letters from so many friends. however it also reminded me of all the friends i had lost contact with. i had a strong urge to call up one of my primary school classmates and wish him merry christmas but i don't know why i didn't do it in the end.damn. i don't know if i will ever get down to calling him again.
oh yea speaking of which, 2008 was also a special year to me because i had made quite a few close friends that i am sure i will keep for a lonnnggg time. also, i had renewed lost(temporarily) friendships that meant alot to me this year:)
i hope 2009 will be just as much an awesome year as 2008; for me and for all of you:)
well it's been a long time since i've written in here. and by write i mean like proper proper writing and not like posting pictures and songs up and like stupid point form entries haha.
2008 was quite a special year for me..a year of many firsts..a year of many lasts(hopefully) and a year of new beginnings and a year of unfortunate/fortunate endings. i daresay 2008 has had a major impact on me. i think differently and sort my thoughts out in a different manner. i'm not sure it this is what they mean by maturing but i like this change because i feel that this change will make me a better person.
looking back on 2008, i feel that i have accomplished alot of things i never actually set out to achieve ( i don't believe in new year resolutions see). i have completed the national service chapter of my life, and hopefully it ends there in ocs - i got my reservist unit but i don't really have an appointment see:) the next part of my life will naturally be my tertiary studies. still not so sure of what i should do but we'll leave that to another time. in the mean time i should be working at ocbc up till just before i enroll. (i just came back from the interview and i think it went well) as such, my short term goals from now till i start uni, is to -
1. not get fired
2. go for my holiday in australia
3. train consistently
4. compete in more races
5. learn to drive
and i guess for the rest of 2009 i will be in uni and i bet that time period from aug to dec will pass super fast so i won't really have much goals to set for myself. i don't know what to expect and i shall not anyway. but i do know i wanna start playing squash in uni again. it is such an awesome game. period.
on a side note, i'll be going for stars concert with ethel and her classmates next wed! yay how exciting haha although i don't exactly know anyone else but oh wells we got like some balcony seats where like the whole booth is gonna belong to us so yea it'll be pretty awesome.
anyway, i was looking through and sorting my drawers a few weeks back and i found so many things i kinda forgot was there like a PARANG! haha seriously. and like i had this few black notebooks where i penned down my thoughts when i had just enlisted and was bored in tekong. it was quite interesting to see what i was thinking about while i was there. there was this particular entry i remember writing while waiting for my turn to go fire the rifle at the range. i was going on about what would happen if everyone single person in china were to make a jump at the exact same time. all one point don't know how many billion of them were to jump at the same time - will the earth be shifted slightly out of its axis? and if that were to happen, will we just spiral out of the sun's gravity and like float off into the universe and ultimately die cos the earth will freeze over? (okay if my physics like theories are flawed in any way pls pardon me.i was in army.haha)
and then i found out that i had quite alot of letters in my drawers and i had just put them into different piles. i spent christmas eve sorting those letters out and reading them again and putting them all in order in a nice corner of my drawer. it was nice to re-read those letters with such warm and comforting (and also funny) letters from so many friends. however it also reminded me of all the friends i had lost contact with. i had a strong urge to call up one of my primary school classmates and wish him merry christmas but i don't know why i didn't do it in the end.damn. i don't know if i will ever get down to calling him again.
oh yea speaking of which, 2008 was also a special year to me because i had made quite a few close friends that i am sure i will keep for a lonnnggg time. also, i had renewed lost(temporarily) friendships that meant alot to me this year:)
i hope 2009 will be just as much an awesome year as 2008; for me and for all of you:)
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